Goodbye, Jack

by | Aug 16, 2019

By Elizabeth F. McNamara

It’s a little embarrassing to admit this now. In fact, it was embarrassing at the time. The first time I saw Jack, I thought he looked goofy, maybe too goofy to love. His head seemed to be too big for his body, like he was a Franken-dog.

It’s not that I hadn’t been warned. Our friend Richard had told us about the dog. He’d been rescued by their dog whisperer friend Meg and she thought the dog might be right for us. 

But, Richard added, “he is a little funny looking.”

We trusted Meg, who had taken in all sorts of dogs over the years and could see into their hearts. So we met Jack, a corgi-beagle-pit bull mix (we guessed) on a Saturday in 2007. While Meg was out of the room, I whispered to Neal my concern that Jack just looked too odd. Neal, who had taken years to convince to even get a dog, looked at me like I was a baby killer. What kind of monster had he married? 

OK, maybe I was being ridiculous. Here was a dog who needed a home, who Meg said could be trusted around our youngest, medically fragile child, and who wasn’t a puppy (we had enough going on with that youngest child that the idea of training a puppy was daunting). 

Aidan and Jack

We took Jack home. 

Even though my family had always had a dog growing up, I didn’t actually know all that much about having a dog as a pet. Jack set about to teach me. One morning early on, he came into our bedroom, stood there looking at me and let loose a stream of urine. I was horrified, and annoyed. 

OK, so I had to show him I was top dog. I enrolled the two of us in a training class in Warwick that taught me how to work with Jack. It was amazing like getting an instruction manual. I learned to carry soft treats (usually cheese sticks) around with me to reward Jack when he followed instructions. In truth, we both could have used more classes he didn’t always come when I called but we’d figured out the basics.

Jack and I walked and walked and walked under the belief (I think it’s a good one) that dogs do better at home if they get a lot of exercise. We made new friends in the neighborhood. Jack had a particular friend, Rey, a majestic German shepherd. When we’d arrive at a field where the dogs could run off leash, they would see each other, pause dramatically, then race toward each other. 

At home, Jack was a peach: easy going, not prone to barking, and happy just lying nearby or, maybe, on your feet. With those Corgi legs, he was low to the ground, keeping him away from many temptations. Once, when Rey was over, I saw the difference: countertops could be a smorgesboard for tall dogs.

Jack had another special friend, this one of the human variety. Katie, long-time family friend, was devoted to Jack. Each time she came over, she’d get down on the floor and give him lots of extra love. 

The only problem at home was he never warmed up to our two cats, who ended up spending a lot of time in the basement after Jack arrived. Katie would try what she called “forced love” with the pets. Jack never could see the cats as anything other than something to chase. That was the only sign at home of his alpha tendencies. Out in the world with other dogs, we saw that tendency more. He did better with other dogs when he was off leash. On the leash, if he felt threatened, he could put on a mean “Cujo” impression. We learned to read Jack’s signals when approaching another dog on a leash.

Jack and James.

Molly, a white lab who lived on the next street over, was Jack’s frenemy. Rumor had it, Jack stole one of Molly’s bones one day, sparking the mutual animosity. Or maybe they were just two alphas in close proximity. They would bark at each other at any opportunity. On walks, we gave Molly wide berth.

People, however, loved Jack. 

“Look at that cute dog! He’s smiling,” people would invariably say. It was true. Jack wore a perpetual smile. 

He was also a bit of a rascal. Over the years the EG police and different neighbors would return Jack after he’d escaped. He once spent the night in the pokie … well, he was picked up by the EGPD and taken to the North Kingstown Animal Hospital. It cost just under $100 to spring him. It was worth it.

Jack loved snow. He seemed to think he had longer legs. He would just disappear into a pile of the stuff, then jump out. He also liked to chase after falling leaves, kind of like a child with bubbles. Sometimes, Jack would get back from a walk and have a brand new burst of energy, running laps around the downstairs in a figure eight. He loved water too, bounding into the bay at Goddard Park, then rolling in the sand. That was a mess. But I loved that he liked the water so much. 

A couple years ago, we noticed Jack’s hearing had diminished. He didn’t come upstairs very often anymore. His walks got shorter. This past winter, he really started to slow down. Some days we’d walk to the cemetery and back. Other days, just getting around the block was difficult.

We’d long since given up leaving the house by the kitchen porch with its five stairs, opting instead for the front door, which had only two steps. Even that began to be a challenge for Jack. Walking had become difficult and his eating was off. A few weeks ago, we alerted our son, Aidan, who’d loved Jack the most of our three children. He came home that weekend to say goodbye. 

Eventually, we made the unhappy decision a lot of people end up having to make for their pets. On Friday, we took Jack to the vet one last time. 

Jack was a good dog, “the best dog,” said Aidan. 

Thanks for everything, Jack. Say hi to Rey, and Molly, and Meg. See you around.


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Audrey Bartolomeo
August 16, 2019 11:52 pm

I always loved seeing you and Jack when you’d stop in at DPW. You gave him a wonderful life and he gave you his loyalty and love in return. Run free Jack! You’ll never be forgotten…

Donna Sparadeo
Donna Sparadeo
August 17, 2019 8:49 am

Such a sweet read on Jack and his journey, how lucky he was to land to such kindness.

Hugs and Condolences.

Donna Sparadeo

Helen Rendell-Baker
Helen Rendell-Baker
August 17, 2019 8:07 am

Heartfelt condolences to you and the whole family on the loss of a truly wonderful, and super cute, companion. We thought Jack was terrific and always enjoyed seeing him when we visited you. Love Helen, JL, Anna and Jack❤️

Neal McNamara
Neal McNamara
August 17, 2019 9:17 am

Thanks, Helen. Love to you all.

Carmen Lysaght
Carmen Lysaght
August 17, 2019 8:56 am

So sorry for the loss of your long time companion. I feel like I know him from your wonderful story. You are a terrific writer.

A dog lover.

Carmen Lysaght

Theresa Deiters
Theresa Deiters
August 17, 2019 9:08 am

A beautiful tribute to a dear friend. I’m so sorry Elizabeth. You loved him well.

August 17, 2019 9:19 am


August 17, 2019 9:21 am

Beautiful tribute. You were all lucky to have each other. So sorry for your loss.

Barbara Brown
Barbara Brown
August 17, 2019 11:42 am

How lucky you all were to have each other. Your story put tears in my eyes, and brought back the hard, sad actions that need to be taken at the end. Hope you mostly remember just the good times. Condolences.

Mark Thompson
Mark Thompson
August 17, 2019 12:33 pm

Talk about bittersweet…

Todd Stange
Todd Stange
August 17, 2019 3:39 pm

I’m going to miss Jack. He was a good dog and neighbor.

Bill Pett
Bill Pett
August 17, 2019 3:50 pm

Sorry for your loss. when our beloved, black rescue cat Raven died in our arms our family and our lives became smaller–it’s always hard.

Kathy Fritzsche
Kathy Fritzsche
August 19, 2019 10:20 am
Reply to  Bill Pett

All hail Jack! What a wonderful tribute, Elizabeth.

Claudia M Smith
Claudia M Smith
August 17, 2019 3:53 pm

So sorry for the loss of your dear pup Jack. Going through this end-of dog-life thing too many times, it’s a gift to know that you can do something about their suffering. It’s the last love you give them. We just lost our rescue Springer Woody, who bit most of our sons’ friends. They all loved him, knowing that he came from not a good place. Now we have two 4 month old Yorkie pups. They play with all Woody’s (and Gerrit’s) toys.

Mary Clare Fritzsche
Mary Clare Fritzsche
August 17, 2019 8:49 pm

A perfect piece of prose, Elizabeth, in the grand American tradition. May you and the family find solace as you see him all around. Much love!

Irene Clark-McLaughlin
Irene Clark-McLaughlin
August 18, 2019 9:57 pm

I don’t know why we call them pets when they are so much more. They are a part of our family that is loved and cherished as much as any other member. I am so sorry your Jack had to cross the rainbow bridge. Just know he will be waiting for you.

Madeline Grochowski
August 18, 2019 10:04 pm

Oh Jack Mac!!
Marilyn loved you so much❤️

Chuck Nadeau
August 19, 2019 4:43 am

I don’t need to wake up at 4:30 In the morning and read a story like that. Sorry for your loss E. I had to make that ride with two best friends and it’s not fun to come home alone. There are other Jack’s out there. They may not be as funny looking but you can bet they will love you just as Jack did. Maybe you will find each other some day.

Rob Walsh
Rob Walsh
August 19, 2019 9:46 am


such wonderful words that capture what so many of us have felt loving a pet dog or even a cat…

or, have been lucky enough to have been loved by them!

Per CJ Frick: “Be the Person Your Dog Thinks You Are”

Amen, Jack.

Ann Millard
Ann Millard
August 19, 2019 8:15 pm
Reply to  Rob Walsh

What a great story of not only a dog’s life but what happens to the fam when you welcome a 4 legged friend into the fold.
Remember, all dogs go to heaven.

Karen Kane
Karen Kane
August 20, 2019 4:10 pm

I found myself shedding a few tears for you and for Jack even though I haven’t had a dog in over 50 years. I wish I had known him but it sounds like he had many human and dog friends along the way. I think he looks kind of cute.


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