EG Love Stories: Mike and Laura Bottaro – Making It Work, Together

by | Feb 20, 2018

Mike and Laura Bottaro with their children, Dustin and Mia.

By Elizabeth F. McNamara

Mike and Laura Bottaro make it look easy. They are a good looking couple with two beautiful children and a thriving business. You kind of want to hate them. But when you talk to them, they make it clear: marriage can be great but it’s also tough.

They met in law school at the University of Colorado at Boulder.

Mike was in the library one day during third year – NOT his usual haunt, he emphasized – when he spied Laura.

“My scheme was to ask her to be my partner on the moot court team. I thought that was a pretty good way to get an in with her. She flatly rejected me,” Mike said.

But he kept asking. Finally, Mike called early one morning and asked Laura to lunch.

“I thought, well, if someone is persistent enough to call me first thing in the morning … I thought, yeah, I’ll give this a shot,” said Laura.

That first date led to another and another. Soon they were a couple.

“She liked to play pool and she liked to drink beer,” Mike said, smiling.

After graduation in 2000, they moved to Denver and started working.

“We’d meet for lunch downtown in our lawyer clothes, feeling grownup,” said Mike.

“It felt like we were playing dress up,” Laura said.

They were enjoying the young and unencumbered life. But after 9/11 and, later, when Mike’s mother began ill, they began to think seriously about moving closer to family. They ended up in Rhode Island but it took them a few more years to find East Greenwich. That happened in 2009. And suddenly they felt settled for the first time in Rhode Island.

“We bought a house, we had a child and we became part of the community,” said Laura.

Today they have two children, fourth grader Mia and second grader Dustin.

And they both work for the personal injury firm Mike founded in 2010, Bottaro Law Firm.

It’s a busy life so making time for each other has been key.

“I think what has worked in the last few years is being intentional about trying to spend time to talk,” said Mike. A little over a year ago, they started a Wednesday morning coffee hour just for them. At 5:30 a.m.

“We know midweek that we have space and the kids aren’t awake and it’s quiet,” Mike said.

They both make it clear, though: they are not perfect.

“We’re totally different people. When things are going well in our relationship, it’s pretty cool that we’re different people. But when things are not going very well, it’s also because we’re different people,” said Mike.

He said the book “The 5 Love Languages” has helped them to understand  how people give and receive love. What works for Mike, for instance, hearing, “You look great today!” doesn’t really work for Laura, who would much rather have Mike express his love by cleaning up after dinner.

They’ve found mentors in family but also through church. They are active members of Christ Church.

“I think one of the reasons we’ve endured so well is we’re both so determined,” said Laura. “Neither of us give up on anything. We just keep saying, we’re not going to give up.… When things aren’t perfect, you have to think about the long game. You can’t get caught up in the daily swings of when things are high or really low.”

She added, “You have to think about getting through and what the real ultimate goal is, which is our family and our love for each other and being together for the long term.”

This is one in a series of East Greenwich love stories we will be featuring during February in conjunction with our February matching donation drive. Find out more about the drive here. Or click on the Donate button below. And, if you have a love story you’d like to share – anything from a story about best friends or a child and their pet to love of a special place or business in East Greenwich – email [email protected].


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Tracie Truesdell
Tracie Truesdell
February 20, 2018 11:51 pm

These two are great people and so sincere. I have really enjoyed getting to know this family. Fantastic people!


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